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Held Counselling 是一家位于新加坡裕廊东的心理咨询工作室，提供中文与英文的成人个体咨询与伴侣咨询。工作室目前由赵俊俊一人执业，所有临床工作均在 ICEEFT 认证的 EFT 督导下进行。
赵俊俊 · Junjun Zhao
国立清华大学 心理与咨商硕士（在读，即将毕业）
EFT 情绪取向治疗 · ACT 接纳承诺疗法
赵俊俊自 2021 年起持续在督导下接案，累计接案时数约 452 小时。她以个人中心为关系基底，现阶段主要采用 EFT 情绪取向治疗（EFCT 伴侣 / EFIT 个体），辅以 ACT 接纳承诺疗法，工作对象为成人个体与伴侣。
她擅长长程工作——目前进行中的最长个案已持续 97 次。她的督导均为 ICEEFT 认证的 EFCT 与 EFIT 督导，她本人也持续接受个人体验，累计 70 次。
除私人执业外，她自 2025 年起在戒瘾康复机构 Teen Challenge 担任义务咨询师，并正在接受关怀 800 中文辅导热线的义工辅导员训练。
- 累计接案约 452 小时（个体 400 · 团体 42 · 伴侣 10），2021 年至今
- 硕士咨商实务实习 231 小时，其中 41 小时专业督导
- EFT 系统受训 145 小时：EFCT 伴侣治疗三阶完训、EFIT 个体治疗完训
- ACT 接纳承诺疗法训练营 133 学时（ACBS 中国分会）
- 工作语言：中文（母语）、英文（雅思学术类 7.0）
我相信每个人都有获得更自由的生活的潜力，期待和你一起踏上这趟美好的旅程，和你一起成长。
—— 赵俊俊
我怎么和你工作
很多时候，来到咨询室的第一句话是「我也不知道为什么会这样」。
EFT 相信，情绪不是要被消灭的麻烦，而是一张地图——愤怒底下可能是害怕，冷漠底下可能是「我已经放弃指望你了」。我的工作不是帮你压下情绪，而是陪你走到情绪底下，看见那里真正的需要。
在伴侣工作中
问题往往不在你们任何一个人身上，而在那个反复上演的互动循环里——你越追问，他越退开；他越沉默，你越焦虑。看清这个循环，比争出谁对谁错更能让你们重新靠近。
我怎么理解「改变」
改变不是想通了某个道理，而是在一段够安全的咨询关系里，试着用几次新的、适合你的方式——然后你在情感上、在身体的体验上真的感觉到：原来以前那么害怕的东西，没有那么可怕。那一刻，改变就已经发生了。
—— 赵俊俊
没有人是坏人，但两个人都很孤单。
EFT 的工作不是教沟通技巧，而是把这个循环放慢、拆开，让藏在愤怒底下的害怕、藏在冷漠底下的绝望，第一次能被对方听见。
关于 EFT 情绪取向治疗
在伴侣治疗领域，情绪取向治疗（Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT）是目前循证支持最充分的取向之一。多项随机对照研究与元分析显示，接受 EFT 的伴侣中约 70–75% 从关系困扰中恢复，约 90% 有显著改善，且疗效在结束后两年的追踪中仍能维持。它通常是一个 8–20 次的结构化短程历程。
EFT 由加拿大心理学家苏珊·约翰逊（Sue Johnson）与莱斯利·格林伯格（Leslie Greenberg）于二十世纪八十年代创立，整合了三个来源：依恋理论（成年人的爱情，本质上是一段依恋联结）、人本–经验取向（情绪是可以被此时此刻活出来的，而非只是被谈论）、以及系统取向（问题不在个人身上，在互动循环里）。两位创始人后来分道扬镳，我学习的是 Sue Johnson 一脉的 Emotionally Focused Therapy，由刘婷老师授课。
它的核心假设是：关系的痛苦，本质上是依恋的痛苦。当「你还在不在乎我」「我对你还重不重要」这些问题得不到回应，我们就会启动抗议——用指责、追问，或者用退开、沉默。
那一个人来呢？——EFIT。同一套理解也可以只对着你自己展开。EFIT（情绪取向个体治疗）是 Sue Johnson 近年从伴侣工作中提炼出的个体版本：那个「越吵越远」的循环，在一个人身上就变成了内在的循环——你越是苛责自己，越退回麻木；越麻木，越确信「果然没人靠得住」。EFIT 关注的正是这个层面：「我是谁」「我够不够好」「我值不值得被爱」。
说明：EFIT 与 EFFT（家庭版本）的实证研究起步较晚、仍在累积中，其证据基础不等同于 EFCT 伴侣治疗。
两种工作形式
个体咨询
适合你，如果——
- 长期被焦虑、抑郁、愤怒或某种说不清的情绪困住
- 反复陷入相似的关系模式，却不知道自己在重复什么
- 对自己有很多批评的声音，很难真正接纳自己
- 人际关系中总在讨好、退让，或者反过来，总在推开别人
- 处在学业、职业、身份转换的过渡期，需要一个地方把自己理清楚
伴侣咨询 前 3 次免费
适合你们，如果——
- 同样的架吵了很多年，内容不同，过程一模一样
- 关系里越来越沉默，不是不爱，是不知道说什么才不会又吵起来
- 经历过信任受损，想修复但不知道从哪里开始
- 面临重大转折（同居、生育、异地、移居），关系跟着松动
- 都还愿意为这段关系再试一次
- 前 3 次为公益体验，第 4 次起收费
- 咨询过程会在你们知情同意后全程录音，仅用于我接受专业督导
- 督导同样受保密伦理约束，你们可以随时撤回录音同意
我希望这件事从一开始就是透明的：你们获得低于市场价的专业服务，我获得督导下的实务经验。这是一个双向的选择。
伴侣咨询不是评理，不是让谁改。我们会一起找出那个把你们越推越远的循环，然后让你们能在对方面前重新说出真话——包括那些「说出来会不会太软弱」的部分。
团体咨商
我具备团体带领经验（协同带领 42 小时，全程受督），目前没有正在招募的团体。如果你有兴趣，或想和朋友一起组一个，欢迎来信告诉我——人数够了我们可以一起看看能不能开起来。
家庭咨商（EFFT）
家庭取向的 EFT（EFFT）我还没有受训，它在我的学习计划里。如果你现在就需要家庭咨商，请直接告诉我，我会尽力免费为你转介到合适的咨询师，不收取任何费用。
我们适合，还是不适合
与其让你花钱花时间才发现不对，不如一开始就写清楚。
可以一起工作
成人个体咨询与伴侣咨询，中文进行。
- 情绪困扰：焦虑、抑郁情绪、愤怒、说不清的低落
- 亲密关系与婚姻恋爱议题
- 自我探索、自我接纳、长期的自我批评
- 人际关系模式：讨好、退让、推开别人
- 学业、职业、身份转换的过渡期
- 愿意进行一段长程工作的来访
我可能不是合适的人选
我目前身在海外，无法提供及时的危机响应与线下支持——两次咨询之间如果发生紧急状况，我很可能无法在你需要的时间内到场，或联系到你当地的干预资源。如果你正处于以下情况，请优先寻求当地的精神科、危机干预或专科机构帮助：
- 正处于自伤 / 自杀危机，或近期有明确的自伤自杀计划
- 有急性精神科症状（如幻觉、妄想、躁狂发作）需要药物或住院治疗
- 躁郁症、精神分裂症等重症
- 物质成瘾需要专门的戒断治疗
- 关系中存在正在发生的肢体暴力或人身威胁
- 需要出具司法鉴定、心理评估报告等文书
你可能想先知道的
第一次咨询会发生什么？
首次会谈是评估性质的。我们会一起看看你现在遇到的是什么、你希望咨询帮你走到哪里，以及我们两个人合不合适一起工作。这次时间限制不严格，可以略超时。如果我判断自己不是合适的人选，我会直说，并尽力为你转介。
一次多长时间？多久一次？
个体咨询每次 50 分钟，伴侣咨询每次 75 分钟。一般一周一次；特殊情况可以一周两次或两周一次。准点开始，准点结束。
大概需要做多少次？
EFT 伴侣治疗通常是一个 8–20 次的结构化历程。个体咨询因人而异，取决于议题的性质和你想走多深——我不会一开始就给你一个数字，但我们会定期一起回顾进展，由你决定继续还是结束。
咨询内容会保密吗？
会。你在咨询里说的内容严格保密，只有三种例外：你有自伤自杀或伤人风险时、法律规定有通报责任时、以及我与督导讨论个案时（讨论中会隐去姓名、学校、工作单位等所有身份信息，督导同样受保密伦理约束）。完整的保密条款与执业设置，我会在首次会谈前随知情同意一并发给你。
可以线上进行吗？
可以。线上使用腾讯会议或 Zoom，效果与面询相当。请确保你在一个独立、不会被打扰的房间，用平板或电脑体验会比手机好。新加坡与中国无时差。
你可以做诊断或开药吗？
不可以。我不是精神科医生，没有处方权，无法鉴定、诊断或治疗精神疾病，也无法出具司法鉴定或心理评估报告。如果你正在接受精神科治疗，请遵医嘱；心理咨询在心理层面与精神科治疗配合工作，不能替代它。
怎么付费？
每次咨询需在开始前 48 小时完成付款，付款后该时段即为你保留。
首次预约是例外：如果你约到的时间距离咨询开始不足 48 小时，不受这条限制——确认预约后，在咨询开始前付款即可。
收款方式：PayNow。二维码待补充
需要改期或取消怎么办？
请在约定时间前 24 小时告诉我，我们一起另约时间，已付的费用转到新的时段。
不足 24 小时才单方面取消的，该次费用仍需支付——这不是罚款，而是那个时段已经为你留着，那时已无法再安排给别人。
如果是我需要取消，我会尽早告知你并另行安排时间。
另外：「不想来」的心情本身，非常欢迎带到咨询里一起讨论。
我还不确定要不要开始，可以先问问吗？
当然可以。你可以先通过下方的表单或邮件告诉我你的情况，不需要写得完整或条理清楚。如果我极大概率无法帮到你，我会在回信里说明，尽量不浪费你的时间与金钱。
如果此刻你很危险，请先打这些电话
这些资源比我更快、更近。请先联系它们，我们之后再谈。
新加坡
- SOS 24 小时热线
- 1767
- SOS CareText（WhatsApp）
- 9151 1767
- 关怀 800 中文辅导热线（免费）
- 1800 3535 800 每日 10:00–22:00
中国大陆
- 全国统一心理援助热线
- 12356
- 北京心理危机干预热线
- 010-82951332 24 小时
预约首次会谈
填写下面的表单，或直接写邮件给我。如果我极大概率无法帮到你，我会在回信里说明，尽量不浪费你的时间与金钱。
联系方式
咨询室地址
10 Toh Guan RoadSingapore 608838
新加坡 裕廊东 Jurong East · 确认预约后提供楼层与到达指引
线上咨询：腾讯会议 / Zoom。新加坡与中国无时差。
咨询时间
新加坡时间，与中国大陆无时差。具体时段以邮件确认为准。
A place to be heard,
carefully.
Individual and couples counselling, grounded in a person-centred relationship and working primarily with Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), supported by ACT. Online via Zoom, or in person in Jurong East, Singapore. Sessions in Mandarin and English.
The counsellor you'll be working with
Held Counselling is a counselling practice in Jurong East, Singapore, offering individual and couples work for adults in English and Mandarin. The practice is currently a solo practice, and all clinical work is supervised by ICEEFT-certified EFT supervisors.
Junjun Zhao
Master's candidate in Counselling Psychology,
National Tsing Hua University — graduating 2026
Junjun has been seeing clients under supervision since 2021, with approximately 452 client hours to date. She works from a person-centred base, using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFCT for couples, EFIT for individuals) as her primary modality, supported by Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She sees adult individuals and couples.
Her strength is longer-term work — her longest ongoing case has run for 97 sessions. Her supervisors are ICEEFT-certified in both EFCT and EFIT, and she has completed 70 sessions of personal therapy of her own.
Alongside private practice, she has volunteered as a counsellor at Teen Challenge, an addiction recovery organisation, since 2025, and is currently training as a volunteer counsellor with the Care Corner Mandarin Counselling Hotline.
- Approx. 452 client hours since 2021 (400 individual · 42 group · 10 couples)
- 231 hours of assessed master's practicum, including 41 hours of clinical supervision
- 145 hours of formal EFT training — EFCT (all three levels) and EFIT
- 133 hours of ACT practitioner training (ACBS China Chapter)
- Mandarin (native) · English (IELTS Academic 7.0) · Singapore PR
Please note: Junjun is a counsellor in training, not a registered psychologist or psychiatrist. The practice does not provide psychiatric diagnosis, medication, or formal psychological assessment reports.
How I work
Often the first sentence in the room is some version of “I don't really know why it's like this.”
EFT holds that emotion is not a nuisance to be eliminated but a map. Underneath anger there is often fear. Underneath distance there is often “I've stopped expecting anything from you.” My work is not to help you push feeling down, but to go with you underneath it, to what is actually needed there.
With couples
The problem usually isn't located in either of you. It's in the cycle that keeps replaying — the more you ask, the further he steps back; the more silent he goes, the more anxious you become. Seeing that cycle clearly brings you closer than settling who was right.
What change actually looks like
Change is rarely a realisation. It happens when, inside a relationship safe enough to risk it, you try something new a few times — and then feel, emotionally and in your body, that the thing you were so afraid of was not as dangerous as you thought. That is the moment it has already happened.
— Junjun Zhao
Nobody here is the villain — and both people are lonely.
EFT doesn't teach communication techniques. It slows the cycle down and takes it apart, so the fear beneath the anger and the despair beneath the distance can be heard by the other person for the first time.
About Emotionally Focused Therapy
In couples work, EFT is among the most robustly evidenced approaches available. Randomised trials and meta-analyses report that roughly 70–75% of couples move out of relationship distress and around 90% show significant improvement, with gains largely maintained at two-year follow-up. It is typically a structured course of 8–20 sessions.
EFT was developed in the 1980s by Sue Johnson and Leslie Greenberg, drawing together attachment theory (adult love is, at its core, an attachment bond), humanistic-experiential practice (emotion can be lived in the present moment rather than only discussed), and systemic thinking (the problem sits in the cycle, not the person). My training follows the Sue Johnson lineage of EFT.
Its central premise: relational pain is attachment pain. When “do you still care about me?” and “do I still matter to you?” go unanswered, we protest — by criticising and pursuing, or by withdrawing into silence.
And if you come alone — EFIT. The same understanding turns inward. EFIT (Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy) is the individual adaptation Sue Johnson drew out of couples work: the cycle that pushes partners apart becomes an internal one — the harder you are on yourself, the further you retreat into numbness; the number you feel, the more certain you become that no one can be relied on. EFIT works at exactly that level: who am I, am I good enough, am I worth loving.
A note on the evidence: the research base for EFIT (individual) and EFFT (family) is younger and still accumulating. It should not be treated as equivalent to the evidence base for EFCT with couples.
Two ways of working
Individual counselling
This may fit if —
- You've been held for a long time by anxiety, low mood, anger, or something you can't quite name
- You keep landing in the same relational pattern without knowing what you're repeating
- There is a lot of criticism in your own voice, and self-acceptance is hard to reach
- You find yourself always accommodating and giving way — or always pushing people off
- You're mid-transition in study, work, or identity, and need somewhere to think it through
Couples counselling First 3 sessions free
This may fit if —
- You've had the same argument for years — different content, identical process
- The silence is growing. Not because there's no love, but because nothing seems safe to say
- Trust has been damaged and you want to repair it but don't know where to start
- A major transition (moving in, a baby, distance, relocation) has loosened something
- You are both still willing to try once more
- The first 3 sessions are offered free; fees begin from the 4th
- With your informed consent, sessions are recorded in full, used solely for my clinical supervision
- My supervisors are bound by the same confidentiality ethics, and you may withdraw consent to recording at any time
I would rather this be transparent from the start: you receive professional work below market rate, and I gain supervised clinical experience. It is a choice both ways.
Couples work isn't about adjudicating who was right, or getting one of you to change. We find the cycle that keeps pushing you apart, so that you can say true things in front of each other again — including the parts that feel too soft to admit.
Group work
I have co-facilitated 42 hours of counselling groups under supervision, but I'm not running an open group at the moment. If you're interested — or you have people who'd join one — write to me. If there's enough interest we can look at forming one.
Family therapy (EFFT)
I have not yet trained in the family adaptation of EFT; it's in my professional development plan. If family work is what you need now, tell me and I will refer you to a suitable practitioner at no charge.
Where I can help — and where I can't
Better to say this now than after you've spent time and money finding out.
Work I can take
Adult individual and couples counselling, in Mandarin or English.
- Emotional distress — anxiety, low mood, anger, persistent flatness
- Intimate relationships, dating and marriage
- Self-exploration, self-acceptance, long-standing self-criticism
- Interpersonal patterns: over-accommodating, withdrawing, keeping people at distance
- Transitions in study, career, or identity
- Clients open to longer-term work
When I'm not the right person
I cannot provide crisis response between sessions. If something urgent happens, I may not be reachable in time or able to mobilise local intervention on your behalf. If any of the following applies, please seek psychiatric, crisis, or specialist services first:
- You are in a suicidal or self-harm crisis, or have a recent, specific plan
- Acute psychiatric symptoms (hallucinations, delusions, manic episodes) needing medication or admission
- Bipolar disorder or schizophrenia requiring psychiatric management
- Substance addiction requiring specialist withdrawal treatment
- Ongoing physical violence or threat to safety within the relationship
- You need a forensic assessment, court report, or formal psychological report
Things worth knowing first
What happens in a first session?
The first meeting is an assessment. We look at what's happening for you now, where you'd like counselling to take you, and whether the two of us are a good fit to work together. Time is handled loosely in that session. If I don't think I'm the right person, I'll say so directly and do my best to refer you on.
How long is a session, and how often?
Individual sessions run 50 minutes; couples sessions 75 minutes. Usually weekly, occasionally twice weekly or fortnightly where that's warranted. Sessions start on time and finish on time.
How many sessions will I need?
EFT with couples is typically a structured course of 8–20 sessions. Individual work varies with the issue and how deep you want to go. I won't put a number on it at the start, but we review progress together at regular intervals, and the decision to continue or finish is yours.
Is what I say confidential?
Yes. What you bring is held in strict confidence, with three exceptions: risk of harm to yourself or others, a legal duty to disclose, and clinical supervision — where all identifying details are removed and supervisors are bound by the same confidentiality ethics. The full confidentiality statement forms part of the informed-consent document I send before the first session.
Can sessions be online?
Yes, over Zoom, and it works as well as meeting in person. Please be somewhere private where you won't be interrupted; a laptop or tablet gives a better experience than a phone.
Can you diagnose, or prescribe medication?
No. I am not a psychiatrist or a registered psychologist. I cannot diagnose or treat mental illness, prescribe medication, or issue forensic or formal psychological assessment reports. If you are under psychiatric care, please follow your doctor's guidance — counselling works alongside that care, it does not replace it.
How do I pay?
Payment is due 48 hours before each session. Once paid, the slot is held for you.
First appointments are the exception: if the session you've booked is less than 48 hours away, the 48-hour rule doesn't apply — just settle payment before the session begins.
Payment is by PayNow. QR code to follow
What if I need to reschedule or cancel?
Let me know at least 24 hours before the session and we'll find another time — anything already paid moves across to the new slot.
A cancellation with less than 24 hours' notice is still charged. That isn't a penalty: the hour was held for you, and at that point it can't be offered to anyone else.
If I'm the one who needs to cancel, I'll tell you as early as I can and arrange another time.
And if you simply don't feel like coming — that feeling is very welcome in the room. Bring it.
I'm not sure I want to start. Can I just ask something?
Of course. Use the form below or send an email — you don't need to write it up neatly or completely. If I'm very unlikely to be able to help, I'll tell you in my reply rather than take your time and money finding out.
If you are in danger right now, call these first
They are faster and closer than I am. Reach them first — we can talk afterwards.
SINGAPORE
MANDARIN-LANGUAGE SUPPORT
- Care Corner Counselling Hotline (free)
- 1800 3535 800 daily 10:00–22:00
Request a first session
Use the form below, or simply send an email. If I'm very unlikely to be able to help, I'll say so in my reply rather than take your time and money finding out.
Contact
Where we meet
10 Toh Guan RoadSingapore 608838
Jurong East · floor and directions sent once your appointment is confirmed
Opening hours
Singapore time. Exact slots confirmed by email.